Groups and peers have been a hotbed of discussion of late. Most likely as a reaction to the Bariatric Bad Girls Club that was started on Facebook, Twitter, and then the website that was formed just recently.
It should be noted that the BBGC evolved from a group of people who were upset with the actions of a specific Matriarch in the bariatric world when she publicly attacked Melting Mama on her message board, then banned her from being able to even respond. How fair is that? Attacked, but unable to defend oneself? Especially in “enemy territory”? Lovely behavior.
This was my introduction to the Stepfords. Prior to this, I had never heard of the group, had never ventured off my home at ObesityHelp. And to be honest? I’m quite grateful of that fact in retrospect, because my God? I’d want to slit my wrist with some of the things I’ve seen over there.
The irony is that currently a discussion is being waged about how negative the BBGC is, and how little support we give. And that’s, quite simply, bullshit.
Since creating the BBGC on facebook, I have seen the following behaviors:
- People have begun to exercise more, including some that have decided to take up jogging to join the BBGC-Runner’s Club (and hey? I’m thinking of a surprise for these gals). How exactly is more exercise a negative side effect of a group membership?
- People have realized that they must take their supplements and have gotten on the bandwagon in doing so. In fact, since the BBGC’s inception, I have gotten several messages about getting back on track and for lists of labs that should be run for ideal health. Again, how is this negative?
- People have actually embraced a healthier eating perspective. Sure, we have our moments where we have our occasional desire for chocolate. Speaking about it, working through it, and God forbid actually having the occasional splurge is healthy eating! If I don’t indulge myself once in awhile I know that I will go out and do something stupid. A 6-pack of Oreos from the gas station will keep me from buying two full sized packages from the grocery store, unable to decide which I want (the double stuffs or the golden? Or even one of the special limited edition flavors? decisions decisions!!) and eat both within 2 days. How is accepting our mental illness of obesity and dealing with it constructively a negative thing?
- People are sharing ideas, thoughts, product reviews, and support — all without the need to “invisible threads,” ban members (again), or pay homage with diffuse and flowery philosophical treatises with footnotes to the site owners or the products she sells without feeling like you are going to have your knuckles slapped with a ruler. How is this open exchange of information a negative thing?
That’s only looking at the big picture and not at the individual members of the group. If we were to look at the support from individuals associated with the group and how supportive they are to the Bariatric Community? There would be no way to even think about considering the BBGC a non-supportive group of people. In fact? It’s one of the most supportive groups that I’ve been involved in, and I think that says a whole lot.
However, we are continued to be vilified. So let me simply give one more example of why I’d rather hang with the BBGC — a group of honest folk:
Compare the above to:
At least the BBGC is honest – brutally so, perhaps. But honest.
Karma’s a bitch.